he mounting pressure of increasing curriculum added with homework and extra-curricular classes is making childhood very stressful for kids as well as parents. Gone are the days when kids played in the building compound for hours, breaking glasses, eating munchies at some friend’s place, fighting over who won and who cheated. Parents usually complain there is so much to study and homework to be done too, where is the time to play? how do we make studying a fun activity for the child? how can she/he enjoy his/her childhood and stays atop competition as well?
Below Are Six Easy Steps to Ensuring That Your Child Is Motivated to Study
- Develop Routines And Structures: Parents should set weekly targets as per topics and subjects covered in school, and decide a day of the week when he/she should be prepared with the weekly portion. Don’t panic if on a particular day much hasn’t been done. Encourage the child to cover up until the target day. Let’s say you have an established routine that your children do their homework every weeknight between 7 pm and 9 pm.
Of course make realistic targets, taking into consideration daily homework, recreation time, and other activities. You can get kids to set targets themselves. It would be a fantastic lesson in planning and execution as routines and structure play a crucial role in developing motivation in your children.
- Make a Study Group: Make a group of 3-4 children- child’s classmates, the ones he/she is super comfortable with. All should have the same study target. On the scheduled day-say Friday afternoon, make it a point to meet at someone’s house/coffee shop, prepare a questionnaire/ quiz for all related to the weekly target. After the quiz or study time, they can be given a small treat or taken to a movie/park/beach as a reward for completing their weekly target. Having your best friends in the same target zone encourages the child to study regularly and they might even fare better in tests, it will effectively reduce stress or anxiety during exams.
- Play Time: Playtime is one of the most important parts of a child’s academic success. This time gives children to interact with each other outside of the classroom, giving them the confidence to learn independently and develop their interpersonal, creative, and behavioral skills.
Underestimating the importance of play in the early years of development and growth of children is a mistake well-meaning parents often make. Playtime is as important for kids as working is for adults. They learn, grow, and become better people from playing. Plus, it is the ultimate way for them to learn, reduce stress, and exercise their creativity. A couple of hours of free play/sport should be scheduled for every day, irrespective of homework, extra classes, and study. After all, academics aren’t everything in the world. Having a calm and balanced child will ensure his good health and happiness for the future.
- Beware: Big study group may not be a good idea. It will be like school and classes, taking the fun element away. Do not compare the kids ever. Remember you want to make study fun and not make your child or anyone else look small. Refrain from marking or ranking, otherwise it will be another stress to deal with every week.Remember you are doing this to make study fun and take off the pressure and stress of the present education system.
- Don’t Annoy Your Children: One of the keys to motivating your children to work hard is not to annoy them either at home or in classrooms. This may seem odd at first, as we’re used to parents getting annoyed with children, not vice versa. But relationships are a two-way street, and parents can also annoy children.If your children are continually upset with you over things you say or do, they will find it hard to listen to you. You may have some great wisdom to offer them, but your children won’t be receptive to your advice.
- Help Your Children To Find a Mentor: According to research, children who have mentors are more likely to become successful.A mentor is an adult who acts as a role model for your children. One of the benefits of your children having a mentor is that they will understand a perspective on life from someone who isn’t their parent.The mentor’s values and attitudes may be similar to yours. But those values will mean more to your children when they’re modeled by someone outside the family. One reason for this is that children inevitably become accustomed to both their parents’ and teachers’ viewpoints. Having a mentor is a chance for your children to re-engage with those values, from a fresh perspective.
A mentor can be particularly helpful when there’s an ongoing conflict between parents, teachers, and children. In this kind of situation, your children can benefit from having a neutral third party they can turn to. The mentor may help your children to see the issues from a new perspective.
A mentor could be a sports coach, art, music, or class teacher, a trusted neighbor or family friend, or One of your co-workers.
These six principles will help you to build in your child a deeper motivation to work hard. Some of these principles may take a while to implement while other tips and principles you can put into practice right away.
Don’t forget to develop active listening along the line. Wishing you all the best on this challenging but exciting journey!